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The unexpected benefits of a silent meditation retreat by Deborah Berryman

The world is loud. In today’s environment there is a constant bombardment on our senses and over time, this can take its toll leaving us feeling tired, wired and overwhelmed.  In evolution terms, our nervous system isn’t yet prepared for this chronic and ever-increasing level of stimulation, which is why more and more people are discovering the benefits and power of silence.

When I look back at my journey with yoga and meditation, it’s those precious moments of silence and stillness that have been the places I’ve felt most content and at peace; the place I’ve felt most fully myself. I know most people who practice regularly have felt the same. So why do we find it so hard to switch off?

The answer I think is complicated. A combination of constant TV, music, social media alerts, podcasts and YouTube videos have caused us to crave noise and avoid silence. Behind this, there’s often a quiet avoidance lurking in the background. When there’s nothing to distract us from our own thoughts — we might have to pay attention to what we’re really thinking and feeling – and that can sometimes seem scary. The paradox is, the more we run away from our inner experiences, the worse that fear gets. Our thoughts and feelings become the enemy and we can spend the rest of our lives (often doing some weird things!) trying to avoid these at all cost.

YET. When we can learn to sit with these thoughts and feelings and finally see that they’re just that – thoughts and feelings – their power diminishes, and they turn from foe to friend. They become gentle signals for us to check in with how we’re doing.

But this doesn’t come easily. There’s a process of ‘undoing’ needed to disrupt those unhelpful mental habits of distraction, worry and rumination. 

When we can learn to sit with these thoughts and feelings and finally see that they're just that - thoughts and feelings - their power diminishes, and they turn from foe to friend.

Mindfulness Mini Retreat

It gets a little better with practice

If silence is something you rarely get or even fear it a little, then leaning towards it in daily activities can help you practice. Try a yoga or meditation class. Listening to nature radio. Drive with the radio off. Sit on your deck or porch in the morning and take in the quiet and stillness. When you go to bed, use the silence to get calm or listen to it raining outside. Letting silence help you wander through happy memories or list what we’re grateful for in your life right now.

Then once we’ve touched into and feel comfortable with the quiet, we can start to make the practice more intentional. The more we do this, the more familiar it becomes and eventually – instead of silence and stillness being a place to fear or avoid, it becomes an inner sanctuary; a place for us to rest and feel peaceful without needing anything else or anyone else to make this happen.

The first time I experienced this in a really deep way was during a 1-day silent retreat. Just spending a few hours without any demands on my time and energy, or any distractions was bliss. The teacher skilfully led different meditation practices throughout the day so that we could stay present, and by the end of the day I felt joyful!

Taking time out to do nothing can seem so…..well, pointless and a waste of time in our culture. We value productivity and To Do lists and pictures on social media showing the world how brilliant our lives are (while often feeling low and overwhelmed). But taking the time for silence sends yourself the message that you are worth hearing (deeply) and giving yourself this time and space is a gorgeous act of self-love.

I’ve now made silence a priority in my life. I practice seated meditation every morning and go on a Silent Retreat once or twice a year. Of course, by the time to retreat rolls around, it always feels like the worst possible time for me to leave my business for seven days, completely unplugged. The needs of the studio demand my full attention — or at least that was the story I have in my head.

In reality, taking this time to go on the retreat is the best thing I can do for myself and my business. It gives me the space and clarity to make the best decisions for the health and longevity of the company, and for me and the team, which ultimately improves the lives of those around us. I had no expectations going into the retreat, but I came out of the experience with new depths of clarity and the ability to be more present. It was impactful enough that I decided to make a 7 or 10-day silent retreat a biannual occurrence. It’s my way of ensuring that I’m in the right state of mind so I can be a better person to those around me — whether it’s my team members, my family, friends or any human being I encounter throughout the day.


1. Improve Your Focus on the Present Moment

A silent retreat is a unique time for you. It’s a time to turn all distractions off — there is no talking, reading, writing, or phone. When doing this, we come back to being fully aware, in the moment, right here, right now. When we can let go of future worries and past resentments, there’s a delicious reprieve from the noise in our heads.

2. Clear Your Mind

The structure of a silent retreat allows for my mind to deepen in a way that it isn’t able to elsewhere. A few hours in, a clarity of mind begins to take place — it’s as if my mind is recovering from running a marathon and starting to feel strong again. After a retreat, I can  approach any business and personal challenges that have been occupying my mind with greater clarity.

A favourite quote of mine comes from Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
If you already have a daily meditation practice, you probably recognise what Frankl is describing. When you commit to an extended retreat, the results are multiplied.

3. Keep Perspective

I have the stories of my life playing in my head constantly: the events of the past day, week, and month keep my mind busy. The stillness of a retreat (no talking, no phones, no distractions!) allows for me to begin noticing and hearing things differently.  Ultimately, this results in helping me to be less reactive and more positive.

Our minds are busy, and it’s more urgent than ever that we intentionally find ways to focus our attention by taking time away from all the doing in our lives. If you’re interested in learning more about what it’s like to attend a silent meditation retreat, check out our upcoming workshop, or perhaps regular classes.


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